9 Baby Items To Skip, From A Mother of 5

This list is shared in love, and under the assumption you live within an hour of a major metropolitan area, with access to the shopping that implies. This is also coming from someone who has experience breastfeeding (successfully and unsuccessfully), bottle-feeding, exclusively pumping long-term, premature birth, and XL babies.

  1. Crib.

    If you're planning to nurse your newborn, plan to cosleep safely in the beginning, as this will help everyone in the family to enjoy as much rest (and snuggles) possible. If you prefer baby to have their own space, a bassinet or playpen will suffice, and are fairly portable. A floor bed is quite practical to supporting independent movement, or simply start with a toddler bed.

  2. Changing Table.

    You will need some kind of diaper changing station, equipped with some kind of barrier, diapers, wipes, ointment or coconut oil, and a disposal vessel. It is very possible that a table isn't the most effective solution to this task, particularly in the newborn stage when such a station can be created upon a low dresser, made to be portable (or both). Consider your approach, and whether or not this will be useful, or cumbersome.

  3. Bottles.

    You may need them, true, so do a little window shopping prior to delivery. Do not buy what you do not need. You can easily attain bottles within 2-hours, should you need them. The same is true of pacifiers, nursing accessories, any variety of hygiene product.

  4. Toys.

    Brand new babies do not play. They do not care for anything beyond their mother for the first several weeks. When they do begin to play, they will be much enamored of their immediate environment for weeks or even months, so be sure that it is clean and beautiful prior to giving birth. One or two plush buddies, mirrors at their level, and a wood rattle truly will suffice prior to teething.

  5. (Most) Clothes.

    Brand new babies do not make the best dolls. Fortunately, you are unlikely to want to play much dress-up in the first few weeks of motherhood. You may go through several outfits a day, however. With that many changes, simplicity is often of the essence. You will want some cute, fun, seasonal outfits, but the overwhelming majority of clothing for baby will likely be simple zipper sleepers for the first six months.

  6. Nursing Accessories.

    Nursing can be simple or complex, but it's best to save your money and time to let your nursing relationship develop as it will. Those things will always be there if you want them.

  7. All Gadgets.

    It sanitizes bottles? Warms wipes? Rocks your baby? Makes whale sounds at a healing frequency? Cool. Set the money you would spend on the item aside prior to birth, and let that money make a little interest for you while real life happens with your actual baby. This demonstrates diligence with resources, acknowledges limitations, and assumes confidence:  all traits needed of wise parents.  You are welcome to research items prior to need of them, but may I suggest that little to no actual need may be encountered when caring for your real child. After five babies, I do not recommend a single gadget.

  8. Baby Containers.

    After five babies, I do not recommend a single swing, chair, walker, or other type of child containment beyond a blanket on the floor. It is quite easy to adapt a space to a child, and highly recommended to teach children how to interact with and care for their space as soon as they are engaging with it. A collapsible playpen is wonderful for keeping infants in a safe place, and can even be taken outdoors to allow your baby to enjoy sunshine and fresh air.

  9. Stroller.

    This will likely be needed at some point, but which one and when depends very much upon your lifestyle. For the first three to six months, an inexpensive wrap or ring sling are comfortable and versatile for both mother and baby. However, if you already have well-established habits that you want to incorporate your baby into as soon as they're born, a stroller may be a good investment to make ahead of birth.

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My 5 Keys To A Healthy Home

While enjoying an evening Instagram scroll, an account I enjoy, @wearethehomemakers, posted the following call to action:

“Homemakers, share five things that have proven to equip and bless your homes and roles within.”

It turns out my full answer was much too long for an Instagram comment, but thankfully, this blog exists for such things!

Here are my five top bits of advice for creating a home and life full of love…

1. I decided to see my husband as the boss I chose to love and serve for life, and it changed my marriage and my life in all the best ways, despite all my fears and hesitations.

This shift in mindset has been key to change from growing in resentment of my husband to growing in respect for him. It's remarkable how a man who feels respected can move mountains.

The slight nudge of power dynamics cultivates a kind of evergreen quality to intimacy, key to long-term mutual satisfaction. A strong marriage devoted to God is at the center of a happy, healthy home, and this shift put all of that into perspective, and has enabled everything else on this list to work consistently.

2. Keep the kitchen clean (it’s easy).

At the root of the house always feeling messy, never wanting to cook, and generally feeling like a hot mess at home was the ever-present pile of dirty dishes.

As a mother of five, they always exist around me, and yet, keeping my kitchen clean has freed my spirit of it's need of chaos.

The dishwasher exists, and dirty dishes can go straight into them, for the most part. It's a tip everyone in my family was able to learn.

Within a month, I started feeling capable of actually living a sane life, and all it took was a shift from sink to dishrack, and an acceptance of running the machine 3x/day. Dishes: keep them clean!

3. Learn to cook what you love to eat.

Good food is a pleasure for everyone around your table. Keep things simple, but high in quality.

Consider organizing your kitchen like a little restaurant.

Depending on your season of life and cooking skills, this may not suit. But, I've become somewhat enamored of running my home kitchen and dining room as if it's my little restaurant serving my seasonal favorites and specials.

As a consequence, my family has pretty much stopped eating out and I keep a six-month food supply.

4. Prayer is an act of self-responsibility.

Most issues need to be worked out with God alone, and there is nothing gained complaining and explaining to everyone around you.

Write it out, pray, deal with your issues more than you examine them.

5. Your home is basically in the business supporting God's product: life!

Keep records and make systems for success, like any good business.

Be efficient, make good use of the resources made available to you, cultivate beauty in as many ways as you can, embody playful, vibrant beauty, make your home edifying, nourishing, and peaceful, surround your children with beauty and truth - all to the glory of God.

BONUS

6. Grow and change for your children, they are your greatest blessing.

This part is maybe always going to feel tough or tender, but it's the deepest work in the deepest calling. Whatever problems you see in your children, look for them in you first, and solve those things from a place of actual leadership and experience.

Your children need you confident in your role and authority as their mother, and your failure to fulfill your responsibilities borrows against your future and your child's: clean up your messes, and be a living example to your children of how to lead a beautiful, God-centered life.

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I love making tea in a French press, and since being lulled away from coffee by sweet tea, I've been keeping about a gallon of tea ready at all times - I had just ran out of tea when this order arrived, I'll have to start getting a second every other month, so I never run out.

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Pizzaria at Home

How do I save $75 a week on pizza for my family of seven?

I make it, of course!

It wasn't always this easy: I've tried various doughs and recipes, all ending in lackluster pizza that my children hardly touched, and frustrated tears on my end. Pizza is simple, what was I doing wrong?!

Honestly, I still don't know.

One day, I decided to take the bread dough I had ready from the morning to bake the next day, and instead rolled it out over a sheet of parchment paper placed over a baking sheet, then covered the dough with sauce and cheese, baked at the same 450, but just for 15-minutes.  My first attempt was using a rectangular pan, subsequent pizzas have been circular, the recipe works the same.

It's delicious.

The beauty of this pizza is that it's the same Daily Bread recipe I make every morning, merely formed into a pizza base, topped with sauce (a quarter to half a cup), followed by your choice toppings and give or take a pound of shredded cheese.

Gelatin: A Beauty Food

Succulent and tart.

Jiggles in your fingers.

This should be known the world over as Hot Girl Dessert.

It's packed with collagen, which makes your skin beautifully ageless, your nails long and strong, and your hair verging on mermaid; glycine, which is keeping you hot with improved blood sugar and beauty sleep, plus all that protein making gelatin super filling while being light and easy to digest, and even helping your digestive system to repair itself and lowering inflammation - again with making you look hotter while eating something delicious and fun.

Our grandmas knew what's up.

I tweaked this recipe from @thenaturalmindedmomma by substituting a cup of lime juice for some of the juice, making it wonderfully tart, highly recommended!  It takes less than ten minutes to make, and less than four hours to fully set. Easy!

Gelatin Dessert

  • 1/2 cup grass-fed gelatin

  • 1/2 cup water

  • 1/2 cup honey

  • 3 cups juice

  • 1 cup lemon or lime juice

    Bloom gelatin in the water, mix with honey and juice in a medium pot, bring to a simmer before putting into glass baking dish or molds. Sets within four hours.

The Drink That Brackets My Day

Several years ago, I found myself in the habit of drinking a glass of wine after dinner.

It wasn't a big deal, and yet, it was.

To change the habit, I needed to change the cue, and I endeavored to find something that emulated the flavors of my favorite dry white wines without the impacts to my health.

At first, I tried lemon water. Too simple.

Adding lime helped, the warmth and complexity of flavor with lime contrasted with lemon offered a better experience. But grapefruit did the trick!

 

The trio of citrus offers a bouquet of flavors, especially as tea, that compared well with my favorite wines, while being a completely different experience. 

I soon decided to both end and begin my day with three pieces of citrus made into tea. Even while traveling, I have my chopped citrus, French press, and kettle so that I can begin and end my day properly.

About two years ago, I added ginger to the mix for its benefits to digestion, blood sugar, added antioxidants.

The internet is full of articles on the benefits of lemon water in particular, and citrus in general.  Basically, citrus is full of Vitamin C, antioxidants of several varieties, and a bit of potassium, and compel digestion by triggering the release of gastric acid and peristalsis. Altogether, these components give citrus the capacity to boost immunity, improve heart health, improve digestion, prevent kidney stones, inhibit cancer, improve blood sugar, support liver health, support weight loss, improve skin tone, and reduce wrinkles.

 

A small change with big impact.

(Just so you know, if you cut one grapefruit into eighths, cut four lemons and four limes in half, it will fill up a two-quart container and keep refrigerated for about a week.)

  • Half a lemon.

  • Half a lime.

  • An eighth of a grapefruit.

  • Ginger, to taste.

  • Quart of boiling water

  • French press recommended

I Wash My Face With Honey

Honey.

It's liquid gold. Considered the elixir of life in Ancient Greece. Used on the battlefields of World War I & II to dress wounds. Likened to the Word of God throughout the Bible, which promises it's believers a land flowing with honey (and milk).

Honey is revered the world over as medicine, food, and beauty treatment all-in-one.

A water-soluble humectant containing small amounts of hydrogen peroxide at a low pH, honey is rich in antioxidants giving it anti-inflammatory, anti-bacterial, and anti-fungal properties, and making it the ideal cleanser for maintaining beautiful, ageless skin.

As a humectant, honey draws moisture into itself (and by extension, your skin, when used topically).  The anti-bacterial and anti-fungal properties make a gentle and effective cleanser for acne-prone skin.  In fact, honey is effective for all skin types, but most especially for dry and sensitive skin, which is what I have, and why I avoid conventional skincare. After pregnancies, I've had increasing melasma, which regular use of honey has helped to fade over the years (lesson learned here was to take the honey down to my neck, where I had more discoloration).

One day about seven years ago, my world changed when I learned about facial double-cleansing. 

You see, I knew about oil-cleansing, but was not convinced to try it until coming across double-cleansing and honey.  Double-cleansing involves using an oil to cleanse the face, followed by a water-soluble cleanser, which is what most conventional facial cleansers are, technically. I was a few years into using oils in place of serums and moisturizers, so slathering honey on my face wasn’t that big a leap, and I was instantly impressed.

I will never, ever, ever, ever, ever buy a facial cleanser labeled as such. Honey.  Always, and forevermore.

Want to try it for yourself?

Tie back your hair, because, obviously. It's best to use honey after oil-cleansing, your skin will be a touch damp, making the honey easy to apply, but you can simply splash water on your face or try honey from the shower. I like to start from the base of my neck, working in upward strokes to apply honey over my face, moving gently around the eyes (just like you would with any other cleanser). Gentle enough to use daily, morning and evening.  Turn it into a mask merely by leaving the honey on your skin for ten minutes or so before rinsing off.  I follow it up with my rosewater-based toner and Magic facial oil.

This routine is why I don't pay for Botox.